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I’m gonna skip over the whole “introverts ’t get laid” implication as irrelevant. Third possibility, which is (still) true in my case ― he uands that sex is desigo form a perma bond, so he’s waiting until he’s found the one woman he wants to settle down with before “intimacy with” women who might ht not turn out to be “the one”. (This have a religious basis, doesn’t have to.) So he winds up “letting off steam” with male friends because he doesn’t sider it to be “sex before marriage”.

I have never met a true bisexual male whose introdu to intimacy, was first through a male, although it’s highly possible.

Xander says:

maybebi says:

Obviously there’s exceptions ― it sounds like you and your partner are happy together despite his tinuing i in women.

“I simply find it impossible to believe that if he has feelings for females, that he would a his feelings for males before intimacy with the female .Unless he is shy, or a solid introvert.”

I’m a 40 year old attractive, intelligent gay man. However I’m not your typical “gay” guy. Other than the fact that I’m 40 and single, most people don’t figure me as gay. Often I have women tellihat I just haven’t met the right girl, etc; which I actually find insulting. That said, I get a lot of those ‘curious straight’ guys of all ages flirting with me. I relate on some level to most of the stories posted here. The only thing I say that I know for sure is that SEXUALITY IS PLICATED. It is not black & white. Large gray areas folks. It be fusing and frustrating for me at times. In fact very often I wish I fit into the gay stereotype, because I feel it would be easier for me to meet people. I do believe that most everyone is bisexual to some extent. Our society readily accepts women who “experiment” with other women, but it’s not okay for a man to experiment? That’s too gay? In fact I really believe that homophobia in general is driven by women. Me allowed to express themselves for fear that a woman would think they were gay and judge them for that. Don’t get me wrong, I love women and have a few very close female friends. This is just a theory that I have retly realized.

Yet, I definitely believe in bi-sexuality as I’ve had enters and even some friends who are definitely bi-sexual. Just be certain that the label “bi-sexual” isn’t a cop-out. Heck, you may be a late blooming bi-sexual with fusing thoughts bugging you. Who knows? Anyway, have fun, love and enjoy whatever you do.

February 26, 2011 at 10:29 am

I’m not judging bi-sexuality, but often bi-sexuality is used as an excuse to ignore orue homosexual self. It’s ve and carries less of a stigma.

My dilemma would be “With the way guys are socialized to be hetero at an early age, I simply find it impossible to believe that if he has feelings for females, that he would a his feelings for males before intimacy with the female .Unless he is shy, or a solid introvert.

Many men claim to be bisexual, and use it as a ruse to actually exist in a semi state of denial about being gay. In one of the previous posts, the guy says that he has not had the same experiences with women as what he dreams of with men.

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November 5, 2009 at 9:49 pm

Society alone would have ditioned him to have experiences with women at this stage. When younger, yes guys, often mess around with each other before having sex w/ females. Not at a later stage of maturity.

As far as “bi-sexuality … carries less of a stigma” ― Questionable. A bisexual guy is going to draw fire from everyone ― “bi = gay”. He’s going to have a harder time being open about himself in a relationship (with a male or a female), because there’s an intrinsic “what, I’m not enough for you?!” response. (At least in a gay relationship, his partner would certainly know and accept that he’s gay, even if they’re both totally closeted to the rest of the world.) Bisexual women, of course, are seen as sexy rather than “fused”.